Basic simple ways to Build Your self confidence

                                         

                 Basic simple ways to Build Your Self Confidence

"To successfully build your self confidence, you must used your thought to create an image of who you want to be, and your emotion to help you feel this amazing new you and then visualize  and focus on it until it becomes your reality".

Confidence is an expression or a feeling of certainty in other words it is a quantify of trust one has. Outwardly the average persons appears quite self-sufficient, composed, sophisticated, self controlled. That is the way we are expected to look in public.

 But, as someone once observed, in every human being there is a frightened child. there is one in you and in me, too. Appearance notwithstanding, most human beings are plagued with a malady of self-doubt, shyness, sense of inferiority, and low self-esteem.

we are afraid of ourselves, of the future, of the world. it is something we have to struggle against all the time. very few people have wholly transcended this feeling of self put down and achieved completely, serene self-confidence. I do not think any-one has done so except after definite change in his basic thinking.

                                           

                   Problem of lack of confidence among Youth

The condition in people often showed up everywhere. most of these happen among the youth. Young people sometimes give impression of being very self-assured. But most of them suffer from lack of confidence.

The slightest challenge becomes a mountain to themselves. A girl once wrote to her professor how shy and un-happy she is  because she is fat. Others are self conscious because they are thin, tall, or short.

 To quite a few, the nose seems to be a special problem. same professor had many letters from teenagers whose main complaint is " my nose is funny" Many others are troubled about ears.

The Book of Proverbs says; "in the fear of the lord is the beginning of confidence" What does that mean, "fear of the Lord"?  Either awe, respect, or love would, I think, be close to intended meaning.

In respect of the Lord, there is strong confidence. when an individual gets close to God, in loving harmony with God, then his weaknesses, his self-doubt, his shyness disintegrate.

                                          
                                              Who Are You?
An ancient philosopher said "Man, Know thyself for this is the beginning of wisdom". Now I'd like to ask you question. Do you mixed up in your thought about yourself? do you really know what is in you and what you can do? Have you really become aware of your potential? There are no greater days in a person's life than the day he really finds himself that he knows that he is more than equal to the difficulties he has to face in his life.
The question now is this; Have you found yourself?

                               How to overcome Inferiority and gain your self-confidence
1. Think positives; "Thinking create the actual fact" said Brain Tracy. think creatively gets you a creative result. William James was one of the greatest philosopher-psychologists in the western world. He once said "be not afraid of life.

 Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact" you will note that he does not say "will create the fact" but will help to create the fact."

2. Believe. Suppose i want to change some circumstances. The first thing I must do is believe that I have sufficient reserves to do it.

3. Humility. You must humble yourself to seek God and His wisdom and guidance. And then work at the problem, sometimes through pain and suffering and toil. And if all the times I hold steady in belief, this very belief attracts dynamic influences that help create the facts.

If you still feel that you still suffer from poor self-confidence, there are a number of simple things to do to boost yourself and hopefully breakout your downward spiral. You may already be doing some of these things and certainly don't need to do them all.. Just need to do those you feel most comfortable with. 

1.  Make two lists: one of your strengths and one of your achievements. Try to get a supportive friend or relative to help you with these lists, as people with depression are not usually in the most objective frame of mind. Keep the lists in a safe place and read through them every morning
2.   Pay special attention to your personal hygiene: take a shower, brush your hair, trim your nails, and so on. 
3. Wear clean clothes that make you feel good about yourself. All things being equal, wear an ironed shirt rather than a crumpled T-shirt, you get the idea. 
4. Eat good food as part of a healthy, balanced diet. Make meals a special time, even if you are eating alone. Turn off the TV, set the table, light a candle, and make a moment to feel grateful. 
5.  Exercise regularly. Go for a brisk walk every day, even if it is cold or rainy, and take more vigorous exercise (exercise that makes you sweat) three times a week. 
6. Ensure that you’re getting enough sleep. See my article manage your stress 10 minutes sleeping. 
7.  Reduce your stress levels. If possible, agree with a friend or relative that you will take turns to massage each other on a regular basis. For other suggestions, see my article managing stress. 
8. Make your living space clean, comfortable, and attractive. Whenever I clean my windows or just water my plants I seem to feel much better. Display items that remind you of your achievements and the special times and people in your life. 
9.  Do more of the things that you enjoy. Go ahead and spoil yourself. Do at least one thing that you enjoy every day. 
10.  Perform some art. Activities like painting, music, poetry, and dance enable you to express yourself, interact positively with others, and reduce your stress levels. You might even impress yourself! Find a class through your local adult education service or community centre. 
11.  Set yourself a challenge that you can realistically complete. For example, take up yoga, learn to sing, or throw a small dinner party for some friends. Just go for it! 
12.  Do some of the things that you have been putting off, such as filing the paperwork, repainting the kitchen, or clearing out the garden. 
13.  Be nice to people, and do nice things for them. For instance, strike up a conversation with the postman or shopkeeper, invite a neighbor round for tea, visit a friend who is sick, or get involved with a local charity. Putting a smile on someone’s face is bound to put a smile on yours. 
14.  Get others on board. Tell your friends and relatives what you are going through and ask for their advice and support. Perhaps they too have similar problems, in which case you might be able to band together and form a support group. Don’t be overly shy or reserved: most people do want to help! 
15.  Spend more time with those you hold near and dear. At the same time, try to enlarge your social circle by making an effort to meet and befriend people. 
16.  Avoid people and places that treat you badly or make you feel bad about yourself. This could mean being more assertive. If assertiveness is a problem for you, ask a health professional about assertiveness training.